Why is my neighbor's dog so good on a leash... he's half the age of my dog?! This is a trap!
And you should avoid getting caught in it as much as you can!
Falling into the comparison trap with our dogs usually just brings about negative feelings and no real help for our dogs. In this episode, I break down a few reasons why you should NOT compare your dog to other dogs.
Whenever you look at a dog and how they behave, you might be making some assumptions that are completely untrue.
You typically don't know if that dog is a Hollywood-dog-star with years of dedicated training experience, for example.
You also likely don't know how that dog behaves in all situations. While you might see a dog that's good on a leash out on a walk, you don't know if that dog tears up couches when left alone.
Making snap judgments about a dog in comparison to your own isn't fair because you don't truly know that other dog's background. You don't know the experiences the dog and human counterparts have had!
Any comparison is truthfully an apples-to-oranges type comparison because every dog is SO different and every situation is unique.
REASON #2- YOU'RE ONLY SEEING A MOMENT IN TIME
If you make a comparison about your dog to another, you're likely only doing that based on a few snap moments or situations.
This is even more so true in the world of social media...
I can almost guarantee you that the pup with 50k followers on Instagram has just as many problem behaviors as you're dealing with for your dog.
Instagram dog accounts are polished and perfected moments that don't reflect reality. If you let that become your benchmark to what your dog should be aspiring to... you're bound for disappointment.
Again, you might see a dog that sits well for pictures on their Instagram posts but is an absolute maniac while on a leash.
So don't be fooled by Instagram dogs! The reality likely isn't what they're willing to actually show you ;)
REASON #3- YOU SHOULD COMPARE YOUR DOG TO THEIR "PAST SELF"
In my opinion, the only comparison you should make about your dog's behavior is to their previous "self".
Instead of looking at how good your neighbor's dog is at not jumping, look at how much your dog has progressed instead!
If you were to make a record of your dog's skill level with a specific behavior every day, you would likely see HUGE levels of growth over time.
It's so much more important to focus on your dog's progress over time than their "skill level" in comparison to other dogs!
By the way, you can track your dog's behavior progress in the Pupford App! Get it here.
RECAP
No dog or dog's situation is the same. Comparing your dog to the dog next door is a sticky trap that can lead you to forget the good things your dog is doing!
So instead of comparing your dog to other dogs, compare your dog to their "past self" and see how much improvement has happened over time!
Thank you for the reminder to not compare my dog to others. I have read this before and have mostly stopped doing it. I will focus on not doing it at all and being proud of what a sweet loving dog she has become. ❤️
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Jk01/26/2025
Thank you for this reminder! I probably have that dog for some people. Every time I take him somewhere in public people say “Wow you have such a good dog!” What they don’t know is we’ve spent the past 2.5 months working very very hard on overcoming some severe reactivity that started around 5 months. It was impossible to take him even remotely close to anywhere there were people he didn’t know. There was a lot of frustration, worry, and tears on the way to where we are now. So when people see us now they don’t know the big picture, or that the situation you see him in was carefully planned to push some boundaries without going past his limit. We are still a work in progress but we are getting there!
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Team Pupford01/26/2025
That is so wonderful! Daisy sounds like a great pup! Thank you for being such a great dog mom to her
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Kimberly01/26/2025
Wanted to say these post are real informative, it’s so hard raising a pup
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Leave a CommentSuch great advice!
Thank you for the reminder to not compare my dog to others. I have read this before and have mostly stopped doing it. I will focus on not doing it at all and being proud of what a sweet loving dog she has become. ❤️
Thank you for this reminder! I probably have that dog for some people. Every time I take him somewhere in public people say “Wow you have such a good dog!” What they don’t know is we’ve spent the past 2.5 months working very very hard on overcoming some severe reactivity that started around 5 months. It was impossible to take him even remotely close to anywhere there were people he didn’t know. There was a lot of frustration, worry, and tears on the way to where we are now. So when people see us now they don’t know the big picture, or that the situation you see him in was carefully planned to push some boundaries without going past his limit. We are still a work in progress but we are getting there!
That is so wonderful! Daisy sounds like a great pup! Thank you for being such a great dog mom to her
Wanted to say these post are real informative, it’s so hard raising a pup